Tips for Living With A Roommate
Roommates can come in handy. They help you pay rent, watch TV with you and help buy supplies for the house. On the other hand, relationships with them can be tricky. Here are some tips and tricks to keeping your relationship harmonious.
1.) Draw up a roommate agreement.
If you watch The Big Bang Theory, you know all about roommate agreements. But an agreement or contract doesn’t have to be quite as complicated as Sheldon’s. At the beginning of your time as roommates, draw up a contract that both of you agree on. Outline a number a scenarios and agree on the protocol that you will both follow when they occur. Some situations to talk about could include: what to do if someone is late paying rent, the policy for bringing guests over, what supplies (if any) you will share the cost on and who will do what chore.
2.) His and hers
With most of your friends, it usually doesn’t matter if you take a stick of their gum or have your friend spot you a dollar or two when you go out. But when you live with someone, it’s important to respect their boundaries and their stuff. What seems to you like just one cookie out of 50, to your roommate it seems like an invasion. An invasion of their belongings and their privacy. So do yourself a favor and stick to your own stuff. If you really need something, just ask. And be prepared – and okay with – the possibility of a “no.”
You and your roommate won’t agree on everything. Words like “clean,” “early” and “loud” can be quite arbitrary. Try to find a happy middle ground that you can both agree on and set a minimum standard that you can both commit to. If one of you is a neat freak and the other is more of a slob, settle on a minimum of what you can both be happy with. For example, dishes can’t spend more than 24 hours in the sink, or one of you has to vacuum at least once every two weeks.
4.) Communication and understanding
Communication is key in every relationship you will have. If you’re unhappy about something, bring it up kindly with your roommate. Don’t ruminate about it and be passive aggressive. That’s just a recipe for a disastrous relationship. In addition to communicating, be understanding. If your roommate was up late the night before studying, try being quiet in the morning.
5.) Say hi
You and your roommate don’t have to be best friends. If you are friends, that’s great! But if not, just saying hi can go a long way. Greet each other in the mornings and evenings, and you’ll be on your way to a harmonious relationship.
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